There was a time in my life when all I longed for was to have a child.
It took my wife and I four years to have our first son, and, along the way suffered the most painful experiences of our lives – losing three pregnancies.
I’ve never felt pain like it. And so helpless. Indescribable.
Fast forward a few years … I’m fortunate enough to have two amazing sons.
The feeling I get being a ‘Dad’ is the polar opposite to what I experienced years before … aliveness, combined with a deep nourishment that is very hard to put words around.
There’s nothing like having your own child look at you with pure love.
I consider my children gifts.
But … I still get very tired. I work hard. I enjoy life. I aim to be the best Dad I can be and make time and space to be present with them.
It’s hard. Always being ‘on’ and ‘present’ when they’re around. Especially if you have a full plate with work, life, etc.
And, I’m not alone. There’s no end of entrepreneurs out there juggling life and business and, more often than not, the life part gets put to one side. Families suffer. Children don’t see their Dad, and the impacts are huge.
I’ve lost count the number of times I’ve heard; “I’m doing the best for my children’s future … the money I earn will give them the best start in life …”
No money in the world will buy back the time with your kids when they needed you the most.
The times they were trying to navigate their way through formative years. The times when they’re crying because they don’t understand why they can’t play with the same toy as their sibling. The time when they just want to see Dad in the morning, because he’s never there, work takes priority. The time when they want Dad to bath them and read them a story at bedtime, but, he’s at work …
No matter how ‘successful’ you are you’re never going to be able to afford a time machine. And, chances are, you’ll look back at your life when you’re too old to do anything about it and wish you could swop your fat pension to have a cuddle with your youngest as a toddler. Not going to happen.
Being a parent is beautifully challenging.
Wanting to have children and not being able to is harder, I promise you, I’ve been there.
Consider making a shift in your life to make more time to be present for your children, they are gifts. All the ups, all the downs, see them as experiences that help you and your children grow.
Every minute you spend being present with your child is an investment into their future. Their confidence. Their personality. Their life. Your bond with them.
Work will always be there and expand to fill any time you have. It’s not going to go away.
Even though it may feel like you can’t have time and space away from your business to be with your kids there is a way – it’s your responsibility as a parent.
If you can’t see how you can have time away from your work start with, ‘what would this look like if it was simple’ … and see what comes up.
Be authentic. You always have a choice. Lead.
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